Lisa K's Experience
I dreamt my mother had an operation but could not be fixed by doctors and as she was waking up from the operation I was wondering how I would tell her that she could not be fixed.
I awoke to a phone call telling me she was being rushed to hospital and had already fallen unconscious a few times.
My mother was not currently suffering from any immediately life threatening illness and none of us were expecting her to die. She was considering an operation to cure a minor illness but died of a DVT, which was unrelated and had been diagnosed and was being treated. I dreamt she has something inside her chest, which the doctors could not remove.
She died from a pulmonary embolism (blockage in the lungs), which was caused by the blood clot she had in her leg and the doctors at the hospital could not help her in any way once she realized she could not breathe properly. They said they tried everything.
My dream was very similar to what actually happened.
After she died my sister sensed her presence but I did not. I asked my mother in my head for a sign but I only saw a fly on a bench and I felt disappointed but a few moments later there was a rainbow in the sky over the hospital, with bright rays of light shining up from the sky behind the hospital (sunrise) just after my Dad left her body. Later when I told people about the fly and the rainbow a fly would always come and sit on me.
Repetitive experiences with a little black fly. One would always arrive at strange moments (when I was talking about my Mum) and in places where you would not expect to see one and there were no other flies around. It would sit on me and not fly away easily. Once when I was at my Mum's grave one came and sat on my wedding ring.
I promised my mother (in my head after she died) I would not argue with my sister but when we did have a fight I hung up on my sister and looked up at a wall in my bedroom to see a rainbow of light on the wall - from light coming through the curtains and bouncing off a CD, which was tilted on a book. I had never seen a rainbow of light anywhere in the house before.
The night of the day that my Mum died I spent a long time on the beach with a friend and we both saw a cloud that looked like the shape of a woman with her arms outstretched. It was a full moon.
The next day, a friend a gave me a sympathy card that said "when someone dies, a cloud turns into an angel and God sends a message and a flower is put on a pillow." It also said "the spirits paint the rainbows". The cloud and rainbow had already happened for me so I was shocked how the card said this, but I thought the flower on the pillow was strange and probably would not happen.
After my mother's funeral I returned some relatives to the airport and they put some pillows in the back of my car, which I had to take back to a hotel and while I was getting their luggage out I took a flower, (which someone gave me at the funeral) out of the trunk and placed it on top of one of the pillows as I was getting their things out of the car. I looked up at the flower on the pillow and remembered what the card had said... wow!
The last flowers that I gave to my mother were Easter lilies and one day I was really sad about her death a few weeks later and I went for walk with a child who I look after and let him lead the way. I did not know where we were going and when we came to the end of a path I saw hundreds and hundreds of Easter lilies all in full bloom. This was very strange because for one thing there is no other place in Bermuda I know of where these flowers grow in the wild and everywhere else (in people's gardens and fields) they had already bloomed by this time and died - but there they were - these bright white flowers in the wild, the same I had given to her just days before she died. It was a wonderful experience.
The same child I look after has recently been drawing rainbows at school for no apparent reason! One day he showed his picture to me and said "the rainbows come when the rain has gone". I thought this was my mother talking to me through him and telling me that there is life after death, "something really good happens after something seemingly bad happens" and and on my wedding anniversary another child in the same class picked up a picture of a rainbow and started talking to me about just as I was telling the teacher about how my mother had died.
I have seen rainbows on many other meaningful occasions (and not just in the sky, I have seen the colors of the rainbow show up in a similar way) but the most memorable one since the one just after she died - was one where it ended on the beach where I spent a very happy day with my Mum just before she died.
Just days after my Mum died. I was testing out my sister's keyboard and I unconsciously wrote "I am fine and so are you" - it seemed to come out of nowhere and it was so strange because at the time I did not feel fine and usually when randomly writing to test something I would always write "my name is Lisa" or "hello, how are you?". It struck me straight away that my Mum had spoken to me.
There have been many other symbolic ADCs which I have experienced, most have them have happened in similar ways and there are just too many to list but they keep coming and I am delighted every time one comes to me. One of them happened when I was in Iceland, wondering if my mother had been at the very same waterfall I was standing at (I knew she went to Iceland one time but did not where in Iceland she went) when all of a sudden a little fly landed on my head and buzzed around in my hair and then flew off. It was raining and very misty from the falls and it was not the place or the weather where you would normally expect to be visited by a fly. When I went to my mothers house after I returned from Iceland, I found a stack of old photographs right in the middle of her writing table and they just happened to be of her trip to Iceland several years before she died. In this packet I found a photo of the same waterfall.
The most recent ADC I had was in a dream where my mother seems to have entered a seperate dream, which was a very random dream about something else and she spoke to me. She told me that she truly did create the rainbows for me and started to explain to me just how she made them. I don't remember anything else about the rest of the dream only that I was with other people in the dream and there were other things happening which were nothing to do with my mother. It almost seems as if her spirit entered my dream to talk to me.
experience difficult to express in words?
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No only in dreams have I "seen" my Mum.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? Many experiences, most of them short.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? usually they are sudden
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
calm, happy and caring
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? no
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: too many things happened in such a way that I believe them to be much more than just coincidences
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes 2 were during dreams
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Some happened while I was extremely sad and grieving others happened when I was only feeling slightly sad and others when I was not really thinking too much about my Mum and felt relaxed or happy.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
Helped me to come to terms with my mother's passing and made me realize she has not passed "away" but simply into another dimension.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Best part to know that my mother is around and communicating with me.
to want her to do it more but to not have the signs every day and to know that
despite the fact she is there, I can't really talk to her like I used to.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I was more certain that there was life after death
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes Simply that there is so much the universe that we don't know and that there must be some form of life after death.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
I think I did have a discussion of this sort with my mother once but the memory is vague.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? I dreamt my mother could not be fixed by doctors just before she died.